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Kelly Williams's avatar

"Taking photos of myself and sharing them feels like a big middle finger to the comments that tear apart my physical appearance"

I'd take this one step further; it's like giving the big middle finger to MYSELF for the way I put myself down. When I take a picture of myself it makes me feel vain in a way that I deserve to be.

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Harriet Hadfield's avatar

Ooof I LOVE this!

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Sheila (of Ephemera)'s avatar

As a fellow human, who has taken thousands of pictures of herself and posted them online, I totally get this. However, I’ve swung the other way, to the point where I look at myself, and I’ve divorced that picture from my inner picture of what I actually look like. That sounds a bit confusing, but I am able to look at my pictures objectively and not be judgemental about my appearance. Of course, I still want only the best pictures to be posted online, but I don’t get upset if I’m making a bad face or look goofy or whatever. That’s just how I look sometimes.😁

I’ve always admired yourexcellent selfies, Harry!💕

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Harriet Hadfield's avatar

Awe thanks Sheila!x

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Xue's avatar

This was beautifully written, so vulnerable and really resonated. Thank you.

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Harriet Hadfield's avatar

Thank you Xue x

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Hey Mrs. Solomon on Style's avatar

This is — and you are — incredible.

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Harriet Hadfield's avatar

Awe thank you Rachel!Xx

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On Shopping My Closet's avatar

I can totally relate to your reflection on the effort behind capturing the perfect "effortless" selfie and the balance between vanity and self-expression. 🌟📸 Sort of my daily struggle too ;)

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Harriet Hadfield's avatar

Thanks for sharing! Yes I totally relate!

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